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Mothers and Daughters, Sells and Buyers By Expert Author: Kim Klaver
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Who said language doesn't matter in making relationships work?

In an interview with Deborah Tannen, whose new book, You're Wearing That?
Understanding Mothers and Daughters in Conversation, has just hit the top sellers list, the New York Times and Tannen have this exchange:

"Q. Many of the women you've interviewed for your new book complain of mothers who criticize their appearance. Are they right to be annoyed?

A. "Right" and "wrong" aren't words a linguist uses. My job is to analyze conversations and discover why communications fail. The biggest complaint I hear from daughters is: 'My mother's always citicizing me.' And the mother counters, 'I can't open my mouth; my daughter takes everything as criticism.'

But sometimes caring and criticism are found in the same words.

When mothers talk about their daughters' appearance they are often doing it because they feel obligated to tell their daugher something that no one else will.

The mother feels she's caring. The daughter feels criticized. They are both right.

What I try to do is point out each side to each other. So, the mother needs to acknowledge the criticism part, and the daugher needs to acknowledge the caring part.

It's tough because each sees only one."

Tannen adds, "If you understand how conversational styles work, you can make adjustments in conversations to get what you want in your relationships."

This is true for conversational styles between sellers and buyers as well. Any seller's first challenge is to get the attention of the other person.

Often, the language sellers use gets in the way of that. Sellers have a way of talking that is instantly recognizable to the rest of the world. And in my classes, thousands of people, themselves in sales, say that when a seller starts talking, they want to run the other way.

How would you know if you come across like one of those sellers people love to hate?

Here are two tell tale signs:

1. They speak to us in technobabble - as if they forgot how to speak like a normal person. Glyconutrients that impact at the cellular level is not how normal people talk. Save the jargon for talking with each other. Sellers must relearn to speak in a human voice if they want to engage consumers - that's us, all of us. We want to speak to people who speak our own language.

2. They hype. E.g. They make big promises about what will happen when the person buys their thing - but how can they keep a promise about someone else's future? Or they give us the bombastic boasts - "We are positioned to become the preeminent provider of XYZ..." But no one that matters is listening. Consumers have become immune to this kind of fake communication.

Attention is in short supply. No one has time to give you their attention. To get it, you have to tell them something interesting, and in the first ten seconds. One way is to learn to tell an authentic story - yours, using a human voice that others can instantly relate to. (See "If My Product's So Great, How Come I Can't Sell It?" for suggestions.)

If you can't get someone's attention with the words you use, how can you hope to start a relationship?

About the Author/Author Bio

Kim Klaver is Harvard and Stanford educated. Her 20 years experience in network marketing have resulted in a popular blog, http://KimKlaverBlogs.com, a podcast, http://YourGreatThing.com and a giant resource site, http://BananaMarketing.com which features hundreds of stories, tips, books and CD programs for those who want to learn the art of network marketing.

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