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Tell Your Inner Child To Just Keep Out Of This Fortæl din indre barn til bare holde sig ude af denne

By Expert Author: Dr Deb Hirschhorn Ved ekspert Forfatter: Dr. deb Hirschhorn
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Dr. deb Hirschhorn
I can't do anything with her," Mrs. Porter said plaintively, "I am absolutely starting to lose it." Jeg kan ikke gøre noget med hende, "Mrs Porter sagde plaintively," Jeg er absolut begynder at miste det. "

"Starting?" "Starter?" her husband asked with genuine surprise and a roll of the eyeballs. hendes mand bad med ægte overraskelse og en roll af den opmærksomhed. "Listen," he confided in me, "my wife's just as bad as our seven-year old when they get going. You should hear them." "Hør," han confided i mig, "min kone har lige så dårlige som vores syv år gamle, når de kom i gang. Du skulle høre dem."

"Tell me more," I said to Mrs. Porter. "Fortæl mig mere," sagde jeg til Mrs Porter.

"To be honest," she admitted, "he's right. I don't know how it all degenerates, but something inside me goes haywire every single time Sabrina acts up, and all the wonderful parenting tricks you've taught us go right outside the window." "For at være ærlig," hun er optaget, "han har ret. Jeg ved ikke, hvordan det hele udarter, men noget indeni mig går skuddermudder hver eneste gang Sabrina handlinger op, og alle de vidunderlige forældre tricks du har lært os gå helt uden vinduet. "

"Guess what?" "Gæt hvad?" I tell them, "You're not alone. Your brain is causing this and we can get you out of it!" Jeg fortæller dem, "Du er ikke alene. Din hjerne er årsagen til dette, og vi kan få dig ud af det!" It's at this point that I explain a little bit about how the human brain works and why the best mechanisms it has to offer can mess you up later on in life. Det er på dette punkt, som jeg forklare lidt om, hvordan den menneskelige hjerne fungerer, og hvorfor de bedste mekanismer, den har at tilbyde kan rod dig op senere i livet. Efficiency is one of the most outstanding characteristics of the human brain. Effektivitet er et af de mest fremragende egenskaber ved den menneskelige hjerne. In neurobiological terms this means that when childhood memories are recorded for future use, those memories are stored in very rough categories. I neurobiologiske betyder det, at når barndommen minderne er optaget til senere brug, disse minder er lagret i meget grove kategorier. "Harmful," for example, could describe the face of a toy doll that resembles a frightening dog. "Skadelige" for eksempel kunne beskrive over for en legetøjs dukke, der ligner en skræmmende hund. As a child, when you'd see the doll-face, you might have gotten scared because it resembles the scary face of the big dog. Som et barn, når du vil se dukken-ansigt, som du måske har fået skræmt, fordi det ligner skræmmende lyset af den store hund. As an adult, there's no logical reason in the world why you should become momentarily scared by a similar doll-face, but that's exactly what happens. Som en voksen, er der ingen logisk grund i verden, hvorfor du bør blive et øjeblik bange ved en lignende dukke-face, men det er lige præcis, hvad der sker. It's all because your brain makes a hasty decision that a new stimulus belongs in a particular category. Det er alle, fordi din hjerne gør en forhastet beslutning, at en ny stimulus hører til i en bestemt kategori. What it loses in logic, it gains in speed, and speed is of the essence when you need to protect yourself. Hvad det taber i logik, den vinder i hastighed, og hastigheden er af afgørende betydning, når du har brug for at beskytte dig selv. Thus, if you're in a deserted street and you see a movement out of the corner of your eye, you'll perhaps get startled. Så hvis du er i en øde gade, og du kan se en bevægelse ud af det hjørne af øjet, vil du måske få bestyrtet. That's good because that level of alertness could save your life. Det er godt, fordi dette niveau af årvågenhed kan redde dit liv.

So how does this apply to Mrs. Porter and her struggle with seven-year-old Sabrina? Hvordan skal det gælde for Mrs Porter og hendes kamp med syv-årige Sabrina?

Sabrina's antics would "bring" her mother right back to her own childhood. Sabrina's fjollerier ville "bringe" hendes mor helt tilbage til hendes egen barndom. That is, without realizing it, her child's behavior evoked in her all the feelings that she had as a child herself-and all the reactions. Det er, uden at indse det, hendes barns adfærd evoked i hende alle de følelser, at hun havde som barn selv-og alle de reaktioner. When confronted with her own normal seven-year old behavior, Mrs. Porter's parents didn't really know what to do. Når konfronteret med sin egen normale syv år gamle problem, Mrs Porter's forældre ikke rigtig ved, hvad de skal gøre. Her father would hit her and, even at the tender age she was, she swore she would never do that to a child of her own. Hendes far ville ramme hende, og selv på det bud, alder hun var, hun svor hun aldrig ville gøre det til et barn i hendes egen. Her mother would yell helplessly. Hendes mor ville Yell hjælpeløst. Given the two choices, the helpless yelling seemed much kinder although it didn't really accomplish anything. Da de to valg, de hjælpeløse råben syntes meget Kinder selv om det ikke virkelig udrette noget. With all that bad parenting, it's a wonder Mrs. Porter grew up to be a fairly normal, nice adult. Med al den dårlige forældre, er det en spekulerer Mrs Porter voksede op til at være et ret almindeligt, nice voksne. Throughout her childhood, all she knew was to yell back at her mother, whine, feel stupid, be wrong, and not enjoy whatever it was she was whining for anyway after her parents drained every drop of fun out of it. Hele hendes barndom, alle hun vidste, var at Yell tilbage på sin mor, jamren, føler sig dum, være forkert, og ikke nyde hvad det var hun klynker for alligevel efter hendes forældre drænet hvert fald sjov ud af det. She did not have a sense of competency and success. Hun har ikke haft en følelse af kompetence og succes.

And that is precisely what was triggered in her brain when she was confronted with a whining, yelling, or in some other way challenging, little girl. Og det er netop det, der blev udløst i hendes hjerne, da hun blev konfronteret med en klynker, råben, eller på anden måde udfordrende, lille pige. Automatically and with great efficiency, her brain dredged up the unsuccessful responses she and her mother used when she was a child. Automatisk og med stor effektivitet, hendes hjerne graves op den tabende svar hun og hendes mor brugte, da hun var barn.

There's been a lot of "inner child" therapy in the last couple of decades and it's lovely. Der har været megen "indre barn" terapi i de sidste par årtier, og det er dejligt. The inner child is that hurt little Mrs. Porter who couldn't get what she wanted and was scolded anyway. Den indvendige barnet er, at såre lidt Mrs Porter, der ikke kunne få, hvad hun ønskede og var skændte alligevel. This inner child needs to heal. Denne indre barn har brug for at helbrede. But even more vital to Mrs. Porter's parenting, she (the inner child) needs to stay out of the adult Mrs. Porter's way when she is trying to apply useful parenting strategies that she has learned. Men endnu mere afgørende, at Mrs Porter's forældre, hun (den indre barn) er nødt til at holde sig ude af den voksne Mrs Porter's måde, når hun forsøger at anvende nyttige forældre strategier, som hun har lært. Easier said than done. Lettere sagt end gjort. The brain mechanism that launches the whining-and-yelling- Mrs. Porter is lightning quick and, as we said, not very accurate besides not being a reservoir of successful parenting memories. Hjernen mekanisme, der lancerer de klynker-og råben-Mrs Porter er lyn hurtigt og, som vi sagde, ikke meget nøjagtig ud over ikke at være et reservoir af succesfulde forældre memories. So we have, on the one hand, Mrs. Porter's higher-functioning cerebral cortex brimming with wonderful techniques to work with her children, and on the other hand, her "inner child" reacting quite un-helpfully but quicker and more effectively than her cerebral cortex. Så vi har på den ene side, Mrs Porter's højere funktion cerebral cortex spækket med vidunderlige teknikker til at arbejde sammen med sine børn, og på den anden side, hendes "indre barn" reagerer helt un-venligt, men hurtigere og mere effektivt end hendes cerebral cortex.

The strategy to get around this problem is to learn methods to buy time. Strategien til at komme uden om dette problem er at lære metoder til at købe tid. If Mrs. Porter can slow the entire process down by, say, one whole minute, she wins. Hvis Mrs Porter kan forsinke hele processen ned ved, siger, en helt minut, hun vinder. That is, her cerebral cortex (the thinking and rational part of her brain) wins over her "inner child." Det er hendes cerebral cortex (den tænkning og rationel del af hendes hjerne) vinder over hendes "indre barn." Here are various strategies that people have used to buy themselves that minute: Her er forskellige strategier for, at folk har brugt til at købe sig, at minut:

1. Breathe deeply and peacefully as soon as tension starts and focus on the breathing. Træk vejret dybt og fredeligt, så snart spændingen starter, og fokusere på at trække vejret. This miraculously disengages the automatic and unhelpful emotional response. Denne mirakuløst disengages den automatiske og lidet følelsesmæssig reaktion.
2. Say affirmations to oneself such as: "I am a competent adult and I have a bunch of good tools that I can use." Sig udmeldinger til sig selv, såsom: "Jeg er en kompetent voksen, og jeg har en masse gode værktøjer, som jeg kan bruge." Repeat the affirmation slowly and firmly as necessary. Gentag bekræftelsen langsomt og fast som nødvendigt.
3. Recite inspirational messages to yourself. Recitere inspirerende beskeder til dig selv.
4. Hum soothing melodies to yourself. Hum lindrende melodier til dig selv.

Mrs. Porter and I developed a list of the tools she would like to be able to use with her daughter and then practiced the breathing. Mrs Porter og jeg udviklet en liste over de værktøjer, hun gerne vil være i stand til at bruge sammen med hendes datter og derefter praktiserede det at trække vejret. I gave her a CD of a relaxation I created (which can be downloaded from my website for free in my "Self Help" section, here) and suggested she listen to that every day. Jeg gav hende en cd af en lempelse Jeg oprettede (som kan downloades fra min hjemmeside til fri i min "Self Help" sektion, her) og foreslog hun lytte til, at hver eneste dag.

Meanwhile, Mr. Porter was not to be left out. I mellemtiden, Mr. Porter var ikke til at blive udeladt. Why, I wanted to know, did he roll his eyeballs instead of supporting his wife? Hvorfor ville jeg gerne vide, gjorde han roll hans opmærksomhed i stedet for at støtte sin kone? Could it be that by being so superior he got to dump the problem of disciplining Sabrina on his wife? Kunne det være, at ved at være så overlegen han kom til at dumpe problemet med disciplinering Sabrina på hans kone? If so, that wasn't very fair, was it? Hvis ja, det var ikke meget fair, var det? He agreed it wasn't and we worked out a plan for him to be more involved. Han aftalte var det ikke, og vi udarbejdet en plan for ham at være mere involveret. We decided to capitalize on his sense of humor to help both his wife and child learn to laugh at themselves and lighten up while in the thick of their tugs-of-war. Vi besluttede at udnytte hans sans for humor til at hjælpe både hans kone og barn til at lære at le ad sig selv og lette op mens der i den tykke af deres slæbebåde-of-krigen. All this could only work, of course, with Mrs. Porter's cooperation, but she was happy to give it as she actually welcomed her husband's humor to de-stress situations. Alt dette kan kun fungere, naturligvis, med Mrs Porter's samarbejde, men hun var glad for at nævne det som hun faktisk glædede sig over hendes mands humor til de-stress situationer.

In this way, Mrs. Porter's cerebral cortex wins and her "inner child" is kept from making a mess of things. På denne måde, Mrs Porter's cerebral cortex vinder og hendes "indre barn" er holdt fra at gøre noget rod i tingene.
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