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There are many people who find themselves in an abusive relationship. Some of these people do not even realize that they are in an abusive relationship. An abusive relationship does not have to be a physical one. Someone does not have to hit you very hard or slap you before you realize that you are in an abusive relationship. Jasmine Fiore probably did not see it coming until it was way too late. Like so many others before her when the former swimsuit model attempted to end the relationship she paid the ultimate price. According to statistics when a woman attempts to leave an abusive relationship the danger to her increases dramatically. You don't get the full gist of it in the beginning of the relationship. And as far as your significant other is concerned you are not supposed to. If you did than the chances of you still being in the relationship would drop considerably. So they went about sweeping you off of your feet and did their best to hide their true nature. It worked because you fell in love with them and decided to make a go of things. Life is short just live it to the fullest. Even when you are dating a person, you are in that relationship because you love that person and it makes you happy to be in love. But when your point of affection, your source of happiness turns into a tormentor, you have every reason to be very worried. Sometimes love is blind and we can't see even what is in front of our own eyes. Many lovers interpret relationship abuse as acts of love. A woman who is dangerously hit by a husband out of jealousy brushes it off as an act of love. Don't they quote the bible to support their acts of impunity? Love is jealousy so they say. Lynne Gold-Bikin is the founder of Family Law's Commission on Domestic Violence. She tells the New York Daily News, "A victim is often alienated from friends and family by the abuser, and if someone says something to her about the abuse, she may not listen." It could be any number of reasons why they refuse to listen. It can be anything from love to just complete and effective manipulation by the abuser. If the abuse victim does finally realize what is going on trying can prove to be very dangerous. Whether it is a love relationship with your spouse or significant other, or an abusive relationship that you need to terminate, the definition of that relationship and where you want it to go in the future is a MUTUAL responsibility. No one person can want something in a relationship and be successful in achieving it unless the other person wants that also. Understand your relationships, know when to improve them and when to terminate them. A Relationship is a very valuable aspect in our life. It must be unique and something to be enjoyed by everyone. We all dream of having a very healthy relationship especially with our friends, family members and loved ones. A breakup doesn't have to be the end. Although there is an unfortunately high rate of relationship breakups, you can take appropriate measures to stop yours from being a mere statistic.
People who are not victims of domestic violence always wonder why women fail to just leave when they are abused. If you get first hand explanation from this women you will understand why they stay put. No amount of abuse can make them change their decision because of social and emotional factors that are more practical. Abusive men are often survivors of abuse themselves. Signs of an abusive man can range from emotional, verbal, physical, or sexual abuse. Frequently an emotionally abusive man is also a verbally abusive man or a combination of all abuse types. Relationships are always changing and the man and woman are together for many different reasons. Many men are abusive to their wife, and family but it doesn't always mean that you have to live like that forever. Have you just recently learned that your spouse is or has been cheating on you? If you have, you may want to confront them. In all honesty, if you want to go ahead and confront your cheating spouse then go ahead and do so. With that being said, you may want to use caution. There are times when confronting a cheating spouse can turn dangerous. Many people have had their doubts about true love. This could be because of the many experiences they have gone through. Some of them have been in abusive relationships where the partner abused them physically and emotionally, some later discovered that their mate did not actually love them but was using them for some other gains. Statistics show that 1 out of 3 teenagers has experienced violence in a dating relationship. Most cases involve one partner trying to maintain power and control over the other through some kind of abuse. I think that jerks just happen to also possess several attractive qualities that are so powerful that that they literally make women blind to the abuse... women will rationalize and excuse the abusive behavior because they are so attracted to these other qualities. Many women who are in abusive relationships seems to stick to their abusive partners regardless of domestic violence. You and i wonder what makes it difficult for the women to just walk away and stay a violence-free lives. If you ask them, they will give you very practical emotional and social factors. What a man says and what he does are often times two different things. A relationship with a man is all about being able to 'tell' what he means even if he is not saying it aloud. Very many people assume that it is only the victims of domestic violence that need help. Little do we know that even the people who are responsible for the abuse usually have a will to change and become better persons. There are perpetrator programmes that are established to help abusers who are desperate to change. Making it through a divorce after an abusive marriage is definitely challenging, not just for the spouse but also for any children involved. Even a healthy divorce is painful for all members of the family. The trauma can sometimes take years to recover from.
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