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Nobody likes a finger being pointed at them and being blamed for something. However, people often tend to blame others in the workplace and more so, when faced with a tough situation (such as recessionary pressures or the fear of losing one's job).
As bad and sad as the experience of a dating or romance scam is, there is a need to heal from it.
It is an experience that many victims who have been through it have described as being worse than a nightmare.
Although they never bargained for the romance scam when they began to look for a date online, yet when the romance scam happened, they didn't imagine that the experience would be so horrible as it later turned out to be. Related Article Tags: , , , , , , ,
It can be wonderful to be a victim. First of all, I get to be right. I am misunderstood, mistreated, and miserable, but at least I know I'm right. But being right doesn't make you happy or effective. It is not until we move from blaming people and situations to blessing them that we experience greater well-being and success. Related Article Tags: , , , , , ,
Effectiveness is found beyond blaming. Whenever we blame we make ourselves ineffective and we are of no help to others. Once we are willing to give up the payoffs blaming seems to offer, we become more powerful leaders. Moving beyond blaming is not about being nice or overlooking poor behavior. It is an effective way to lead others through directness, compassion, and clarity.
There are people today who have become experts at blaming everyone and everything for their problems. They have mastered "The Blame Method." Life is not determined by luck or fate. Life is all about choices. It all starts with the thoughts that we choose to think about. Related Article Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , ,
Many organizations have a blaming culture. A blaming culture is where blaming is a common occurrence. Blaming behaviors include pointing the finger, complaining, criticizing, and making excuses. This can change with leadership. True leaders are people who initiate new ways of being. Related Article Tags: , , , , , ,
What is responsibility and why is it important? Response-ability is very simply your ability to respond to the world. Whenever you claim responsibility, your claim your power to do, to influence, to act, to change. Whenever you deny responsibility, you deny your power to respond, leaving yourself powerless. Related Article Tags: , , , ,
Criticism and blaming do not work to create motivation. To lead is to create a motivating environment through a clear understanding of how people think and work. Leaders need to shift their vision from fixing what doesn't work to reinforcing what does work.
The world we observe and participate in is a reflection of the thoughts we hold. This is our world. The helping, the hurting, the peacemaking, the war making, the blaming and the blessing are all reflections of us. The key to creating a more peaceful world lies in creating a more peaceful you. Related Article Tags: , , , , ,
Nedra, one of my clients, was quite upset when she received an email from her friend, Roxanne, ending their friendship. The email was quite blaming, telling Nedra that she was narcissistic, selfish, and uncaring. Roxanne complained that Nedra just talked about herself and was never there for Roxanne. "You don't listen to me. You don't care about me. You are never there for me when I need you."
A lot of people feel that the world has ended for them when they get divorced. This should not be the case. Yes, parting ways with your spouse can be a very painful and stressful experience, but it is not the end of the world. Related Article Tags: , , ,
Most people today believe there is a leadershgip crisis. They don't have much confidence in their leaders. The answer is not to complain about other leaders, but to become an effective leader yourself. here are some steps you can take. Related Article Tags: , , , , , ,
Conversation is when two or more people speak, listen effectively, and come to a shared understanding. We are often afraid to listen or refuse to listen because we already have an opinion. When there is no conversation people make things up, and it usually isn't positive. It is important to look at what we say to others and determine what effect we are having on them. As we increase our willingness and ability to converse our influence grows.
Communication between partners often gets confusing, and there is a very good reason for this. Most of the time, the words we use have far less impact than the energy behind the words. Therefore, what you say is often not what the other person hears. Related Article Tags: , , , ,
We can create what we want, and this is evidenced by the unprecidented number of people who are starting their own businesses. How do these people do it? How are so many people finding success today? They pracrtice the three R's. Related Article Tags: , , , , , ,
In an era that allows far too many people to lay blame where it doesn't belong, it is no wonder many of us cannot achieve success in our lives. A key concept in personal development is accountability. We live in a time when it is easy and even acceptable to play the blame game, blaming other people, our environment and social situations for our woes in life. Related Article Tags: , ,
To blame means to accuse someone of doing something wrong. It is very easy to put blame on a person when things....
A good friend of mine called me today and let me know he had just been laid off. He was in a high-paying management job, and his boss came in today and out-of-the-blue fired him. That has to be devastating. Related Article Tags: , , , , , , ,
The weeks and months following a breakup are very crucial for you and your beloved. If you are thinking of making up and want to get back together, then you should start after the breakup. If you wait too long, the breakup becomes prolonged and you might become permanently separated. If you are in such a situation, you might go through a finger-pointing session where you blame each other for what happened. Related Article Tags: , ,
One day in a therapy group I run for single women, the seven participants are talking about problems they see that interfere with their ability to have good relationships with men. Elaine and Anna Beth energetically blame themselves for not having had a serious relationship since their divorce. Single women often resort to blaming themselves for why they have not found a man. To avoid feeling like a failure and feeling helpless, read on to see how women create a FIX-IT SOLUTION. Related Article Tags: , , , , , ,
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